I’ve been thinking of icebergs recently.
No, not because the weather is particularly icy.
I have an image in my mind of an iceberg with the tip visible and the huge frozen mountain submerged underwater, totally hidden.
With the help of google images and freeware photo sites, I found some images that fit what I’m picturing. Here they are:
And here is a illustration showing how most of the iceberg is submerged.
If not the weather, what prompted me to think of icebergs?
I’ve been thinking of ourselves.
When asked how they are, people respond differently. Some give a big smile and a resounding enthusiastic reply. Some ignore the question. Some give a detailed answer, even detailed enough to make the casual questioner regret having asked. Some give a resounding complaint. Some people address their financial state. Or their parents’ health. Or their diet progress. Or this week’s update of the current serial story going on in their life.
Truthfully, though, all of these options address the top 10% of the iceberg that is visible. Perhaps, actually, the top 2% would be more accurate. Because we as people are amazing. Infinitely so. We have a pure soul. We have tons of potential. We do so much in the background, besides what we are also doing.
And we are so much more than our accomplishments.
We ARE.
We are human beings.
How we are feeling and doing is so superficial.
Even when I’m in the middle of a drama, that drama is not ME. That drama is the top wave in the ocean. It reflects what I’m feeling, what I’m thinking. But I am the ocean. When the wave crashes, the ocean isn’t in turmoil! The upper layer is! The ocean is just fine.
As are we. Just fine, just great, with the visible tip of the iceberg doing some wild dances.
Chaya has been learning about innate health with and from me on and off for several years. As she has limited access to the internet she kindly gave me permission to post it on her behalf so that you can benefit from it too. She now teaches innate health in her own right while raising a family in Israel. If you would like to hear more from her get in contact and I’ll pass your details on to her.
So l was at work and even though I was really busy something compelled me to look at an incoming email on my phone even though a voice inside me advised me not to. When I did the email was something about a mistake that had happened that could have financial implications for us, but the people who sent promised to try and sort it out for us. Well I got really wound up, angry, worried and distracted to the point when I couldn’t concentrate on my work. Thinking of all the things I should say to the people that in my eyes made the mistake and what the implications would be if they couldn’t sort it out etc. Thank goodness it was close to lunchtime and luckily I had the good sense not to quickly send a rude/concerned/reactive email back.
I’m constantly amazed how life can look totally different from one day to the next.
I am a mum of 2 gorgeous young boys, wife to a lovely husband (well most of the time), part-time marketing professional and Innate Health Teacher and I juggle and I struggle. I love my boys and my jobs and my husband and I struggle.
At a moment where uncertainty, fear and anger are all around, there is no greater need to understand that our experience comes not from what is happening around us but by the meaning that we choose to give it, however much it looks the other way. You may notice that watching the news or reading Facebook comes with certain feelings, whilst when we are absorbed in our day to day lives those feelings recede, the reason being that we feel our thinking in the moment. The most help
It’s funny I was having a lovely day enjoying the sunshine with my toddler and all of a sudden I started to feel a bit angsty and a bit insecure. Then I started to question myself about things I’d said and not said, done and not done which led me to more insecure feelings. Sometimes I can experience these feelings and then blame them on feeling tired and somehow that takes the edge off them because I naturally know not to trust them no matter how alluring they seem. Other times these negative thoughts draw me into their web and then whatever happens in the day I seem to use them as ammunition to fuel that thinking and make myself feel worse and worse. 
Most of us who overthink know from the reaction of our friends and family that there are certain areas of life we take more seriously than other people, but when does thinking become over-thinking?
As someone who is prone to low moods – by which I mean periods of days or weeks that I feel flat, and more negative, impatient, dissatisfied and heavy – what has been incredibly helpful to me is to understand the true nature of moods.
We ended up going away for Easter and had a really lovely time in the countryside with the kids but when we got back my husband and I both somehow found ourselves in a low mood. I had been happy during our break but very tired. My husband had been in a slightly bad mood and not sleeping but when he was with the kids he was great. However to me it occurred that he was being a bit snappy.
Confessions of An Overthinker 